Why is everyone so concerned about giving their children a "better life"?
As I recall, when I was a child, I didn't know the difference. There were people who had "more" and people who had "less", and that was just life. Maybe I'm the minority here but I didn't grow up thinking "my kids will have a better life than I did" - I never noticed there was anything "missing" from my life!
We wore hand-me-down clothes, we WALKED to school, WALKED to the library, WALKED to the grocery store, WALKED to our JOBS... We shared bedrooms, no one bought us cars, we mowed the lawn and scooped the snow and our siblings were our best friends.
I saw this comment the other day, in a conversation about "large" families:
"I would rather provide well for the ones I have which is why I don't have more"
Now, don't get me wrong - I don't think anyone should have more kids than they can handle, or have more kids than they can support, but why the need to provide WELL? I admit, I don't like just "getting by" and I like "the finer things in life" as much as the next lady, but what ARE the finer things, really?!
"There was a time when husbands and wives worked hard to ensure they could afford the blessings of a large family. Today, the higher your earning bracket the fewer children you have, but then we always knew that many turn money from a blessing into a curse." (quote from the above linked article.)
I saw this today, and loved it. It goes well with my thoughts on "living well"
Paul Harvey Writes:
We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I'd like better.
I'd really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.
I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated.
I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car. And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.
It will be good if at least one time you see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep.
I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.
I hope you have to share a room with your younger brother/sister. And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he's scared, I hope you let him.
When you want to see a movie and your little brother/sister wants to tag along, I hope you'll let him/her.
I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.
On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.
If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one.
I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.
When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head...
I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a boy/girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.
May you skin your knee climbing a climbing, burn your hand on a stove, and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.
I don't care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don't like it. And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.
I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandma/Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle.
May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays.
I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor's window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.
These things I wish for you- tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life...